"Push Present"

So what are you thoughts on a "push present"? Until today I had no idea what that was. You can read the article The Forum had on it today here. Personally, I am not one for material gifts from my husband. I have sent him back to the jewelery store twice to return items I just didn't feel were necessary. BUT I am not a jewelery girl. LOVE my wedding ring but forget to wear it half the time. I also love some nice big chandelier earrings when I want to feel a little sexy. Not that I think it is wrong if you are a jewelery girl, my mother-in-law and one of my best friends love their jewels. Good for them, they both deserve it. I on the other hand would prefer to take a vacation (hmm...that has been awhile, maybe I should ask for a vacation push present) or have a nice dinner out with my husband without the kids.

Anyways...Back to the "push present". I think it is ridiculous that we as mothers should be rewarded for our labor. Does it suck that it has to be us to go through all of the pain? YES! Is it fair that we have to deal with the backaches, sleepless nights, heartburn, and many other unmentionables-NO! But do I think that because I have to go through all this that my husband needs to go buy me diamond earrings or upgrade my wedding ring? Absolutely not! Isn't that baby suppose to be the reward after all those hours of distress? Hasn't it all been building to see this little person, hold them, coo over them?

I remember when Anthony was first born I felt like he wasn't mine. I didn't have that immediate mother bear instinct. I panicked! Was there something wrong with me? Nope, actually it is pretty normal. Especially with your first one because you build up this birthing moment in your head and when it doesn't go exactly as planned your  in shock. I think the push present I needed after 32 hours in labor pretty much drug free only to have a c-section was a Bud Light but the nurses wouldn't buy it.

I think if your husband wants to give you a gift to signify the birth of a child and its his idea-fantastic! I just don't like the fact that anyone should expect to be rewarded. On Alex's wall I had a saying put up on his nursery...“The most important things in life aren't things.”

I can tell you that I believe that wholeheartedly and always have. So are you a push present kind of girl or not so much? I promise to not judge you either way, we all have our vices...


On a funny side note we were driving in the car and Anthony asks,"Mom, after the baby is here, are you going to get skinny again? No offense." I laughed out loud. Kids are brutally honest-gotta love it!